No one likes to refer to themselves as a helicopter parent, but if it saves your child’s life, than what’s the harm?
At the risk of being a “super annoying overprotective mom,” Rebecca Tafaro Boyer demanded that her husband send her hourly updates on their son William—it was her first day back to work after maternity leave.
Around 2:15 in the afternoon, Tafaro Boyer, from Memphis, Tennessee, received a text from her husband, David. It was a photo of William sleeping in his car seat.
“My nagging wife reply was to correct William’s position in the car seat,” she wrote on Facebook.
She replied to his message and advised her husband to fix their son’s harness.
Moments later her husband contacted her again, but it wasn’t to send her another photo of William in his seat or to confirm that he adjusted the straps. It was to deliver some bad news.
“Honey, we had a car wreck. We are fine, but the car is going to be totaled,” David said to her on the phone.
According to Tafaro Boyer, her husband and son were only a few miles from home when another driver pulled into oncoming traffic.
“He slammed on the brakes at nearly 50 miles an hour before colliding with the front passenger side door of her SUV,” she wrote. “My precious little bundle of joy was so well restrained in his car seat, THAT HE DIDN’T EVEN WAKE UP.”
David ended up with a broken foot and three dislocated toes, and the couple’s 11-year-old car was totaled.
And though there was a time they worried David might need surgery—he doesn’t—Tafaro Boyer was happy her boys were alive.
“I am so thankful that my husband took the extra one minute that was necessary to put William in his car seat safely,” she wrote. “I can’t even begin to imagine how different the outcome could have been. I truly believe that the reason my family is at home sitting on the couch with a pair of crutches instead of down at the hospital is because of my annoying nagging mom voice.”
In sharing her experience online, Tafaro Boyer wrote that she didn’t want to come across as a parent who bragged or shamed others, instead she wanted to inform those who might simply be unaware.
In addition to cluing in parents about the importance of rear-facing car seats for children under two years old, Tafaro Boyer also explained the importance of discarding a car seat after a severe crash.
The couple’s insurance company covered the cost of a new car seat, and Britax, the brand which they used for William, donated a brand new car seat to a not for profit in Memphis that assists families of children with chronic illnesses at the family’s request.
As for William’s old car seat, it won’t be going to the garbage dump. Tafaro Boyer shared that it would be donated to the NICU at Le Bonheur Children’s Hospital where it would be used as an educational tool.
“The car is a loss, but cars can be replaced – my boys can’t.”